alright – i was meant to live in a commune. it’s true. i first started thinking this when our friends lived with us when i was pregnant with jameson. mindy and i shared the cooking (a side note – i’m sure community-living works better when good, or at least decent, cooks are involved) and the cleaning (ok, another side note – clean people probably work better together, too) and, when jimmy and i had a hot date, she flat-ironed my hair. this was my first thought that community-living might not be such a bad idea. i mean, i don’t have the patience to flat-iron my own hair, and what man is going to do it?
this week, jimmy and i stayed on campus at fcc for a few days and i got to spend some wonderful time with anastasia and was reminded of this idea. i mean, the men are out all day hunting and gathering while the women take care of the home and kids, and how much more fun is it to do that work together? in fact, it was pretty fabulous.
this excerpt is taken from a paper by a girl who grew up on “the Farm,” a commune in summertown, tennessee.
Within the interviews I conducted with former Farm members, similar ideals were expressed when I asked “why did you decide to reject the status quo and join a commune?” Here are some of the replies:
- We wanted to see what we could do;
- To learn how to live together as self-sufficiently as possible;
- We wanted to work together in a caring environment;
- We wanted to escape the capitalistic greed and hypocrisy;
- We wanted to create a lifestyle that would be fair to raise our kids;
- To get away from the city and take care of ones self;
- To learn how to live together in a spirit of honesty and compassion, to raise sane healthy children, to live as self- sufficiently as possible.
so, i know my time with anastasia was a little too utopian because it was short enough to ignore some of the day-to-day business that would normally need to be taken care of, but, here is the beginning of my perfect commune
:: kids – derek is in charge of nursery (we don’t call him the baby whisperer for nothing), jen does pre-school, anastasia does elementary, i take care of high school and art. dave teaches theology and logic, jake teaches shop, jimmy teaches all the miscellaneous handy-man stuff he is so good at
:: jen oversees the garden, with ashley helping and researching new ways to grow things and keep the bugs off (my main deterrent to gardening – i’ll stick with the herbs and the canning, thank you!)
:: ashley is the financial wizard that keeps our home running smoothly, and chief baker, while i oversee the rest of the kitchen
:: i think jen and anastasia would be the shoppers…they have all that coupon madness figured out. and, all the money they save can go towards missions and adoptions.
:: the guys, of course, could stay in their respective jobs as they like.
:: the goal of our community would be to practice pure religion as outlined in james 1:27 – pure and undefiled religion in the sight of our God and Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their distress, and to keep oneself unstained by the world.
ok, while i’m living in my own, fantasy world, i think it would be great to run a bed and breakfast for extra income. and we could throw in a starbuck’s, too. that should make you want to join. let me know where you’d fit…