18 may 15
she looks for wool and flax, and works with her hands in delight.
i find what i’m to do and do it eagerly. i find joy and creativity in taking care of our family.
God, both of those things – joy and creativity – are often lacking from my heart. help me to find them there, or [you] put them there – or do whatever it is i need to do to allow you to work in me. joy and creativity are definitely part of who you are, part of your image in me. let me stop blocking that part of you and enjoy doing.
19 may 15
she is like merchant ships; she brings her food from afar.
i go where i need and do what i need to feed and take care of our family
I do this on a basic level. but it is not my best. i don’t feel, most days, that i can fall into bed saying, i did the best i could do for my family today. that is what i need to be able to say: i served my family (not myself) to the best of my ability; and thus served God and brought glory to him.
15 may 15
she does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
i’m helpful with money and connections and won’t do things that reflect negatively on him
help me to encourage Jimmy and love him – to give him a safe and protected home. to not harm him financially – to make our budget and stick to it. to not harm him with my words, directly or indirectly, through others. on the positive side, help me to bring gain to our family. let me say things that build him up – directly and indirectly – to encourage and love him so our home prospers under his direction.
i think we all know a woman who is not encouraging to her husband. who is not a safe place for him. the wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands. proverbs 14:1 ‘nough said.
13 may 15
the heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
i am willing to deal with our finances and not turn a blind eye and spend indiscriminately
help me, God, out of myself and into my husband’s world. let me help instead of hinder and think more of multiplying our finances than depleting them.
on the non-financial side, it is easy for me to ignore the things going on in our life and fade into my own world of reading or tv – basically checking out at the end of the day rather than connecting with my husband. but checking out does not gain his trust.
let’s be honest. the Proverbs 31 woman has never been my favorite person. but i have been a little teensy tiny bit convicted about rethinking her role in my life. alright, so between her and the Titus 2 woman, i’ve been having my butt kicked lately. i just finished a great book study with a couple sweet friends on Becoming a Titus 2 Woman, by Martha Peace, and it got a little ugly at times. seeing what you could look like opposed to what you are can be a little painful. but good.
so in my continuous quest to become the godly woman – wife, mother, friend – that i believe God designed me to be, i decided to see what the dreaded Proverbs 31 woman should look like in my life. but i wanted to make it personal. so i started out by putting each verse in my own words and thinking of what it might mean for me today. then each day following i have been writing one verse out, followed by the verse in my words, i.e. what it could mean for me. and then some observations/prayers for implementing it in my life.
so, here we go.
a wife of noble character who can find? she is worth far more than rubies.
i need to become more like Christ and less like sinful me
teach me, God, to be a noble wife. i confess that i have not been noble in my dealings with our family. but i want a different legacy for our family and to know that you have been the reason for it.
there are an over-abundance of mom blogs posting about all the fantastic crafts that can be done with your small children and being super mom; a plethora of women writing about heath issues and the evils of gmo’s, heavy metals in foods, the importance of buying organic; an uncountable number of gluten-free/sugar-free/dairy-free (why bother?) or just plain vegan (emphasis on plain) cooking and baking sites. and, of course, i could go on. and they all make me feel inadequate. and envious. jealous that other moms even have the time to do all these fabulous things. and cook super healthy, gourmet meals and snacks for their children. and have the energy to care that their kids grow up cultured and artistic and drinking kale smoothies. and that they aren’t themselves napping (or decompressing) during nap-time. and before i know it, i am drowning in the miserable lies of my inadequacies and guilt.
because the truth is, i am inadequate. but the lie is that i am supposed to be all and do all that i read (and i read alot). so when i can remember, in the middle of the maddening torrent of hopelessness and insecurities, that Christ is enough for me and my kids (in whatever way i am screwing them up or depriving them), i am free to breathe in his grace and let it all become peace. silence. In the midst of raging social media.
your new life, which is your real life…is with Christ in God. He is your life. colossians 3:3