20 may 15
she rises also while it is still night, and gives food to her household.
i sacrifice to see that our family is fed and healthy
i’ll be honest, it’s amazing to me that something written this long ago still has the power to convict and change me – not that it should be so amazing since it is God’s Word – unchanging and eternal. this verse is definitely part of the reason i have spent most of my adult life disliking the proverbs 31 woman: i do not like mornings and i love my bed. but i’m trying to allow God to work on me in this. ever since reading this in Becoming a Titus 2 Woman i’ve been praying for his power to help me change:
a godly wife works hard and is not lazy. she should stay home enough to get her work done. i have heard of women who pride themselves on being “night people.” that means they have trouble getting up in the mornings because they come alive late at night. they may stay up to all hours reading, watching television, or pursuing some sort of interest. the next morning they are too tired to get up and care for their family. children are left to fend for themselves. husbands, too.
these woman are not “night people.” they are lazy and selfish. who would not rather stay up late to do whatever they pleased and sleep late the next day? lazy people are often busy, but they are not busy doing the work that God has given them to do. they are incredibly self-indulgent.. the older, more mature women in the church should lovingly but firmly confront these young Christian mothers and exhort them not to be selfish, but to consider their families as “more important than themselves” (philippians 2:3). (p. 116)
yeah, it still stings. there was no getting away from any of it when i read it the first time. this was likely the most painful mirror i had to look in. (now the word sacrifice in my interpretation of the verse makes sense, doesn’t it?)
God, thank you for working in my heart thus far. let me give you, or better yet, i give you, those last couple hours before bed that i’m holding onto. i’m hesitant, sure, but i’m wanting to mean it!
18 may 15
she looks for wool and flax, and works with her hands in delight.
i find what i’m to do and do it eagerly. i find joy and creativity in taking care of our family.
God, both of those things – joy and creativity – are often lacking from my heart. help me to find them there, or [you] put them there – or do whatever it is i need to do to allow you to work in me. joy and creativity are definitely part of who you are, part of your image in me. let me stop blocking that part of you and enjoy doing.
19 may 15
she is like merchant ships; she brings her food from afar.
i go where i need and do what i need to feed and take care of our family
I do this on a basic level. but it is not my best. i don’t feel, most days, that i can fall into bed saying, i did the best i could do for my family today. that is what i need to be able to say: i served my family (not myself) to the best of my ability; and thus served God and brought glory to him.
15 may 15
she does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
i’m helpful with money and connections and won’t do things that reflect negatively on him
help me to encourage Jimmy and love him – to give him a safe and protected home. to not harm him financially – to make our budget and stick to it. to not harm him with my words, directly or indirectly, through others. on the positive side, help me to bring gain to our family. let me say things that build him up – directly and indirectly – to encourage and love him so our home prospers under his direction.
i think we all know a woman who is not encouraging to her husband. who is not a safe place for him. the wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands. proverbs 14:1 ‘nough said.
13 may 15
the heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
i am willing to deal with our finances and not turn a blind eye and spend indiscriminately
help me, God, out of myself and into my husband’s world. let me help instead of hinder and think more of multiplying our finances than depleting them.
on the non-financial side, it is easy for me to ignore the things going on in our life and fade into my own world of reading or tv – basically checking out at the end of the day rather than connecting with my husband. but checking out does not gain his trust.
let’s be honest. the Proverbs 31 woman has never been my favorite person. but i have been a little teensy tiny bit convicted about rethinking her role in my life. alright, so between her and the Titus 2 woman, i’ve been having my butt kicked lately. i just finished a great book study with a couple sweet friends on Becoming a Titus 2 Woman, by Martha Peace, and it got a little ugly at times. seeing what you could look like opposed to what you are can be a little painful. but good.
so in my continuous quest to become the godly woman – wife, mother, friend – that i believe God designed me to be, i decided to see what the dreaded Proverbs 31 woman should look like in my life. but i wanted to make it personal. so i started out by putting each verse in my own words and thinking of what it might mean for me today. then each day following i have been writing one verse out, followed by the verse in my words, i.e. what it could mean for me. and then some observations/prayers for implementing it in my life.
so, here we go.
a wife of noble character who can find? she is worth far more than rubies.
i need to become more like Christ and less like sinful me
teach me, God, to be a noble wife. i confess that i have not been noble in my dealings with our family. but i want a different legacy for our family and to know that you have been the reason for it.
the. best. $1.99 (x three packs) that i have ever spent! i have been making busy boxes for our 18 month old, like these to keep her occupied while doing school with big kids and bought the pompoms to put half in a tupperware for her to dump and fill, and stick magnets on the other half to play with on a small metal tray. she found them while i was cooking dinner, so i figured i would let her play with them.
after i set her up with a fill-and-dump container, our three year old asked if she could play, too. i got her going with a handful of them.
of course, then along come our five and six year olds who want a piece of the action, so i look for ice cube trays, realize i don’t have any (really) but find the ikea ice trays and tongs for a fun time.
i also happened to have a random clothespin in the kitchen that i hadn’t walked to the laundry room yet. so the big kids took turns with the clothespin and tongs, while the little ones wanted their turn with the tongs and trays.
the tissue box that can no longer be left on normal level because this little one likes to empty it, got emptied again and filled with pompoms. based on the length of time she spent with it, i don’t think i will be throwing them out any time soon.
when she got tired of playing with the trays and dump and fill container, she started putting them away in the plastic bag they came in! the big kids started hiding theirs for each other to find, so we played “hot and cold” until daddy came home (20 minutes late) for dinner, with no one crying or whining!
best $5.97 ever.
i almost feel as if i should reintroduce myself because it has been so long since i have written. things have changed. things have stayed the same. my previous post, i realized as a i sat down to write, was to announce that i was pregnant with our fifth baby in 5 years. but it turns out i was not pregnant and there was that to work through. social media is a funny thing. how do you retract after it’s been sent out into the world wide web? even so, we are happy and busy with our four lovelies, two cats, four pigs (for now), seven chicks, and eleven-ish cows (pregnant mamas and soon-to-be grass-fed beef make me unsure of the count).
life is sweet. God is good. and my husband is home early from work, so this is cut short!